(TheManners: The Veil Hijab)
There is an aim afterstriving for Allah's (swt) sake. I want to focus on the first implementation ofmodesty. It is not for the men, but for the women. The most important thing in awoman's life is the Hijab. I'll start with the women for a reason.
If all the brothers andsisters in Islam had modesty, I swear that society will be guided on the rightpath. I am not here to criticise or judge the sisters. May Allah reward you fortaking time to listen to these words. Hence I want to begin the first colour ofthe colours of modesty; and that is the modesty of the woman.
Why am I going to startwith the modesty of the woman? Am I attempting to criticise or judge her? MaybeI don't want to upset the men? No, I would never do that! However, I must stressthat if the woman was guided on the right path and protected her modesty, thensociety would also be on the right path.
When the enemy of Islamwants to destroy something, the first thing they look to destroy is the woman. This is since when the woman loses her modesty, it is easy for the youth tobecome misguided. In turn, it is easy for the whole soceity to lose theirmodesty. Hence, the first thing I will talk about is the modesty of the woman. If we say that modesty for the man is obligatory, then modesty for the woman areobligations; for her it is a crucial duty. This is since the nature of the womanis easy for modesty- she is closest to modesty.
Surely the greatest thingthat belongs to the woman is her Hijab. Please listen to these words and kindlytell your sisters and tell your relatives. If you wear the hijab, please spreadthis message to your sisters in faith, and if you do not wear the hijab, pleasetry to benefit from what will be said today.
Indeed, the most honoredthing a woman possesses is her modesty. Moreover, the most precious symbolism ofmodesty is the Hijab. What is the most precious thing you have? If you havesomething precious, a pearl, a jewel, or a briefcase of money, will you protectit? Will you hide it? You will put it in a safe surely! The more valuable itbecomes, the more you want to protect it. So will you hide it from people orshow it off? Will you leave it in front of everyone to watch and take from itwhatever they want?
Of course you are going toprotect it! So what is the most important, precious thing that deserves to beprotected? The woman's modesty. And the most important thing in the woman's lifeis her Hijab.
Did you know that the pearlis protected by its shell? And the shell is not attractive, yet you cannotsubstitute it with anything else to protect the pearl. Therefore, you cannot dowithout the Hijab as it protects you.
So why is the Hijab anobligation for women and not an obligation for men? Is it just to pressurise thewoman? No. It is because 100 men will never be able to seduce or make one womanfall for them. No matter what they did, if the woman is not interested, those 100 men cannot do anything to attract her. However, one woman can succeed toattract 100 men in a few minutes. Therefore it is obligatory for the woman, since she is the source of attraction. So the Hijab in her right is a must forher.
Before Islam was sent tothe world, the Arabs and Romans believed that the most valuable beauty was foundin the body. So the Romans, Arabs and other nations recognized the beauty of thebody. So Islam came to change that perception of the body. Islam came to raisethe human's spiritual level. Islam came to say: purify your tastes and manners. As humankind progresses, their manners and tastes have to progress too. It wasnever a written law that the woman has to show her body. Islam stresses that awoman is not judged by her body but her intellect and manners. These are themost important things in our values. So the man will not judge the woman by herbeauty. Islam taught the man and transferred his thoughts to judge the woman byher manners and her intellect.
Nobody should see or enjoyher physical body except for her husband. I wonder will any intellectual personaccept these words? Who are those who respect and value the woman and who arethose who don't? Some people argue that the Hijab is not obligatory and that itwas not mentioned in the Qur'an. Let's refer to the Qur'an's verses that makethe Hijab obligatory to Muslim women.
"O Prophet! Tell yourwives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies. That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is EverOft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." (33:59)
Pay attention that whenAllah talks about the Hijab as an obligation He (swt) also *******s the women ofthe believers, meaning all of the Muslim women. So no one can argue that thisverse was only referring to the family of the Prophet. The meaning of this verseis that all of the female believers must wear the Hijab so that they will berecognised as pious women, therefore respected and valued by their modesty. Noone will harm her because she is respecting herself by what she is wearing.
The Hijab is obligatory! Itis not a Sunnah (practise of the Prophet). Allah also says:
"And say to thebelieving women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; thatthey should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms displaytheir beauty......And O ye Believers! Turn ye all together towards Allah, thatye may attain Bliss." (Qur'an 24:31)
According to most scholars, women must cover everything except for her hands and face.
Allah (swt) went into veryfine details to describe the way they have to cover the ears, the neck and thechest. Have you ever seen something described so clearly for us in the way thatwe should be dressed? When Allah says: to wear the khimar [basically to coverthe whole body with loose clothing] it doesn't mean the woman has to wear a verylong scarf, it means you have to cover the most important things with the scarf; the hair, the neck and the chest. Therefore, tucking in the small scarf intoyour neck is an invalid Hijab because it will reveal what you have, i.e. yourchest, etc.
Allah says we have to covereverything. Who can say after that that the Hijab is not obligatory? And theverse with, 'turn all together to Allah, in other words, Repent you believers.'
It is a duty of a husbandto encourage (not force) and persuade her to wear the Hijab in order for her tobe respected and be valued as a pious woman. In another verse, Allah addressesthe Muslim women not to show off and dress in such a way that the pre-Islamicwomen used to. How did the Pre-Islamic women dress? Did they wear short skirts? No they didn't. Can you guess how they used to show off their beauty? They usedto wear better than short skirts that's for sure. The pre-Islamic women used tocover everything, so they would wear long dresses, but they would show theirchest, necks, forehead and the top of their hair.
What will you do when youstand in front of Allah and He asks you, where is your Hijab? Do not be upset bymy words sister, I am only stressing this out of concern. When the verses of theHijab were revealed, all of the women covered immediately. However, never forceyour daughters and sisters to wear the Hijab. Advise them in the best of ways sothat they can see the true wisdom behind the Hijab.
When the verses of theHijab were revealed, the men told the women about the meaning of the verses. Thewomen were so eager to obey Allah's command exactly the way it was described inthe Qur'an. Since they couldn't afford to buy new materials for a Hijab, theytook a dress and tore it into two and used it as a Hijab and went out like that.
Allah says we have to covereverything. Who can say after that that the Hijab is not obligatory? And theverse with, 'turn all together to Allah, in other words, Repent you believers.'
It is a duty of a husbandto encourage (not force) and persuade her to wear the Hijab in order for her tobe respected and be valued as a pious woman.
When the verses of theHijab were revealed, the men told the women about the meaning of the verses. Thewomen were so eager to obey Allah's command exactly the way it was described inthe Qur'an. Since they couldn't afford to buy new materials for a Hijab, theytook a dress and tore it into two and used it as a Hijab and went out like that.
This is contrary to the waywomen of today are like; they make excuses for not wearing the proper Hijab. TheProphet (saw) said: " "A group of women will never enter Paradise. They arethose who wear tight, revealing clothes and do not listen to Allah's command ofwearing the Hijab. Not only will they not enter Paradise, but they will not evensmell Paradise, although you can smell Paradise from a 500 year distance". This Hadeeth is from Saheeh Muslim.
To stress how important itis to cover yourself, there is another example. The Prophet (saw) had to go intobattle against a tribe of Jews who ridiculed a Muslim woman in the market. Theytricked her by tying up her dress, so when she moved, she tripped over and herdress tore so she became uncovered. So a Muslim man who saw this stood up andkilled the Jewish man who had done so. So the Prophet (saw) took the army andthrew out the Jewish tribe out of Madinah.
I wonder what the Prophetwould have done if he saw the way women dress now. Another example is of thefamous scholar Ibn Hanbal. He was walking in the market and a breeze of airlifted a woman's dress and he saw her ankle accidentally. His reaction wasshocked and angry saying: these are the days of the corruption! He reacted likethis over a uncovered ankle! I wonder what he would have done if he saw today'swomen. I could not have spoken about modesty without talking about the Hijabbecause modesty is a branch of faith.
What is your excuse for notwearing the Hijab? Let's go through a list of excuses.
I'm not convinced ofthe Hijab.
So I'd ask you, what areyou? You would reply, I'm a Muslim. What is the meaning of Muslim? The meaningof a Muslim is to submit yourself totally to Allah. The sister who does not wantto put the Hijab on is not submitted to Allah. She doesn't want to submit to thewill of Allah. How can we argue against, or disobey what Allah and His Messengerhave given to us? Prophet Ibrahim had to sacrifice his son and he didn'tunderstand why he had to do such a thing. So that teaches us how to submit toAllah's word. I would rather hear you say that you are not strong enough to putthe Hijab on, than you to say that you are not convinced with Allah's own words.
2nd Excuse
The women who say that themost important thing is what is in the inside, that her intentions are alwaysgood, and she is a good person, and the Hijab is the Hijab of the heart. Andthese women say that they pray 5 times a day, better than 60 men, and she praysthe night prayers, and she prays the voluntary prayers, and she gives charity. However, she feels that this is enough worship for her. Allah (SWT) and HisMessenger said: You cannot take parts of Islam and reject other parts. You haveto take the religion as a whole.
So let us calculate it, youare saying that you are doing a lot of good deeds and that your intentions aregood, and your heart is pure. Alright, I agree with you, but I want to ask youone question. Let us calculate this together. Everyday you go out, every manthat looks at your hair and your body, do you take sins or not? Of course youtake sins because you didn't obey Allah's command. And you'll find that the ladywill argue: 'It's not my fault, my intentions are good, it's the man that willtake sins for looking at me.' No sister. He will take sins if he stares at youbecause you were attracting attention.
Let's calculate it. Everyday, how many sins does a woman who doesn't wear the Hijab take? Would itgo over a thousand sins a day? And remember, the man has two eyes, not one! Andthe man has a heart that loves and desires. Can you imagine the sins the womanis getting? I wonder if your good deeds will be enough? Will they outweigh thethousands of sins you are getting everyday? I want you to do a littleexperiment. Everyday you go out, count how many sins you are getting. How manysins do you get for every man that looks at your hair and body?
Didn't Allah order you towear the Hijab? I am afraid that your good deeds are falling from a torn bag. The good deeds enter the top and escape from the hole at the bottom.
The Third Excuse
The Hijab and hot weather.
The woman can complain thatshe looses her hair when she puts on the Hijab, because of the heat. So come on, do you want me to loose my hair and get bald? I won't put it on because my hairfalls off. Sister, Allah says: Say that the Hell fire is stronger than the heatof the world.
The Prophet (saw) said: Hell is surrounded by our desires, and Jannah is surrounded by the goodthings. Is it still difficult for you to put on the Hijab? But you'll take GREATdeeds for following Allah's command!
The Forth Excuse
The women say that theyknew ladies that wore the Hijab and they had the worst of manners, and did theworst of things. So I don't want to put the Hijab on because I don't want to belike them. Okay, I argue to the sister that I know people who pray, but do badthings, does that mean we shouldn't pray? Some people go to Hajj so that theycan hide under the title of Hajj and that they can do bad things. Does that meanwe shouldn't go to hajj? So sister, the wrong is not in the religion, but in thepeople themselves. So is the hijab bad or the person who wears the hijab?
5th Excuse
Allah has not guided meyet. I will put on the Hijab, but Allah hasn't guided me to do so now. So when Iam 50 years old and I have enjoyed my life, I'll put on the Hijab. No sister, this excuse is totally wrong. Allah says: Allah does not change a people'ssituation unless they change what is within themseleves. You will not put theHijab on until you change what is within yourself and work towards putting onthe Hijab. It's not acceptable for you to say that Allah has not guided you- no, he has guided you and the proof is that you are listening to these words. Thereason you are listening to these words is Allah opening the journey of guidanceto you. Allah will never leave a person unless He gives him guidance, so it isup to that person to obey or not.
6th Excuse
When I get married I'll puton the Hijab.
So I'll tell you, alot ofmen look for the pious, religious woman who respects herself with her Hijab, more than those men who look for the other women. And Allah has written who youwill marry anyway! So you won't marry anyone else except for that person thatAllah has chosen for you. Don't be afraid, put your trust in Allah. Allah willgive you the pious husband. So when you marry, marry somoene who will love youfor your faith and respect you.
A man came to a scholar andasked him: If I'm going to marry my sister to someone, who should it be? TheScholar replied, marry her to a man who is a friend of Islam, so if he lovedher, he will respect her, and if he hated her, he will not treat her badly. Marry the man that will protect you, respect you, and be happy that you are awearing the veil.
7th Excuse
I'm still young.
Do you know when you'll diesister? The death rate for youths is increasing! I will give you an example of agirl. A True story that really happened. This happened in Egypt, Alexandria lastyear in Ramadan. The man was telling me that his wife wears a veil. Living infront of them was a young girl who was not wearing the veil. And the girl hasgood things inside her heart, like all of our sisters in Islam. However, shedoesn't understand the meaning of the veil and the meaning it has in Islam. Sohe said that his wife (and this is obligatory for all the women who wear Hijab) had good relations with this girl. She didn't ignore her just because shedoesn't wear the Hijab, no, she was friends with her. So one day the young girlhad come to ask the wife if she'd come shopping with her to buy some jeans. Sothe intelligent wife who knows that she has to call the girl towards Allahagreed to go shopping with her, but under one condition: the girl comes with thewife to an islamic circle that was going to start. The girl agreed.
So they went to the circlewhich was about repentence to Allah. The girl was so inspired by what was beingsaid, and started to cry until she kept repeating one sentence over and overagain: I've repented Allah, please someone cover me. The people told her okaylet us take you home and you can put the Hijab on. But she refused, wanting tobe covered right at that moment with the Hijab, she couldn't go out without it. So they got her a scarf and a dress, and she left the building with it on. Andas soon as she left to cross the road, a car hit her and she died.
I swear this is a truestory. She died after she had repented. She is lucky that she repented beforeshe died. So never give the excuse that you are still young, because you neverknow when you will die.
8th Excuse
I want to follow fashionand if I wear the Hijab I'll be out of fashion.
Isn't Allah more dearer toyou than fashion? I swear when you put the Hijab on you'll have light shinningfrom within you, and you'll be more beautiful with your Hijab.
9th Excuse: I want tofollow the westerners.
Who respects the womanmore? Islam or the ones who cannot even sell matches without painting a halfnaked woman on it? Are they the ones who have respected the woman or exploitedthe woman? Or Islam, who has respected the woman and covered her and liberatedher from exploitation?
10th Exuse
I don't want to because I'mafraid of taking it off. Sister why don't you put it on with firm faith and askAllah to always protect you with it so you never take it off. Of course I'm notsaying that taking off the Hijab isn't a sin. Taking off the Hijab is thebiggest sin, the biggest sin, the biggest sin, the biggest sin. It'sthe biggestsin because you would be encouraging other women to do the same. Never ever dothis please. Allah (swt) would hate that. Wear the Hijab and do these threethings to make sure you will never take it off:
-Have good religiousfriends
-Attend and listen toIslamic lectures
-Make duaa (suplications) to ask God to keep your Hijab on and strengthen your faith.
Ok, the last excuse:I'm shy and embarrassed from what my friends and relatives will say if I put theHijab on. Sister, won't you be ashamed of yourself from Allah on the Day ofJudgment? Won't you be embarrassed when you see the Prophet (saw) on the Day ofJudgment?
On the Day of Judgement youwill be thirsty and the Prophet will be giving water to everyone. And you willrun to him, but two angels will stop you going further. The Prophet will say, leave her! She is from my nation. The angels will say, we cannot ProphetMuhammad, for she did not obey Allah's command. So the Prophet would say, goaway, far away, I do not want to have anything to do with you because you didn'tlisten to Allah's command.
And who would beembarrassed? The one who is showing her body to everyone, or the one who isrespecting and covering it? The Prophet (saw) said: grab Islam with yourhands and teeth! Sisters and brothers in Islam, this was a lecture for thesisters on the issue of the Hijab.
I advise you to be up tothe standards of the Hijab. If you want to put on the Hijab, do it now, butdon't put it on if you don't pray or fast and your rude with no manners and youare not close to Allah, that way you will be weak and take it off. If you canput the Hijab on now, pray on time, and be with religious friends, read theQuran everyday, and thank Allah everyday even if it's for a few minutes.
If you did these fivethings, your Hijab will go with your worship, your manners, and you'll be anexample to all the Muslim and non-Muslim women. Never think that you can put theHijab on and not worship Allah or have any sort of Islamic personality. And ifyou are wearing the Hijab and you do not pray hold those five things in yourheart and practice them everyday, for you are representing Islam sister. Strengthen your faith so you can keep it on.
If you cannot do thesethings after you put on your hijab, (And you are not wearing the hijab) dothem and renew your intentions. But do not do these things for 6 years and thenput on the Hijab. No, make it more like after one month starting from today ortwo or three months; build yourself from within and then put it on. Work towardsputting on the Hijab.
Another point. You havebecome a Muslim who wears the veil. Never think that the Hijab means you havecompleted your worship and will enter heaven. On the contrary, it is only thebeginning of your journey towards Allah (swt)
A futher point: rememberthat you are an example to all the Muslim and non-Muslim women. With yourmanners, worship, smile, even when you are walking down the street, you are anexample to everyone and you will indeed inspire many people, without even sayinga word. You will purify your society! Your good deeds are extremely of value toAllah. You will guide your sisters in Islam. You are our example, our ambassadorof Islam. Please, please do not let us down.
Here are a few points ofhow to wear the Hijab. If you do not follow these points that means you are notwearing a proper hijab. So please make sure that you follow each pointcarefully.
-Your clothes must beloose, covering your body and not revealing the shape of your body. If you showthe shape of your legs, waist, shoulders, if the scarf is too tight around yourhead and you are showing the shape of your hair if you have tied it in a bun, etc.
-Not wearing see throughclothes.
-Covering the whole bodyexcept for the hands and face.
-Not wearing clothes thatresemble a man's clothes.
-Not wearing perfume.
Keep to these points at alltimes and you have the Hijab and are a Mohajaba.
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01-11-09
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A Call for Guidance
رد: A Call for Guidance
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